This was an interesting discussion that we had at the Student Y on university campus today, and I thought it would be worth posting here to hear opinions. Firstly, this is a very subjective topic and everyone is going to have a specific opinion based on their experiences or beliefs. So please can we try not to fight? Noone is right, and noone is wrong. We all come from different backgrounds, and it would be nice for an innocent topic to be discussed in a civil way.
The discussion topic was: is it possible for someone to have a best friend of the opposite sex (I specify sex because most people here know my edginess about gender) who is not your spouse, without the relationship involving anything more than being close friends?
My answer is a definitive YES! All of my really good friends since 2002 have been girls. Justin doesn't count in this case. I've known him since 1989.
Two of those girls / ladies I have known since the very early noughties and we are still extremely close friends. One is my best friend and the other ... well, we'll always be friends.
The question was viewed from different perspectives at the venue; mostly from the side of not being married. I thought I had to put in two cents as someone who has been married.
So it's very much a personal thing I guess. My problem with the way the question was phrased was that it sort of presupposed that people (whether guys or girls) have no integrity, which is I think an incorrect starting point
What are your opinions?